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Wednesday, November 4, 2009

什么是赏识教育?What is Appreciation Education?

赏识教育就是像学走路,学说话的教育方法。每一位父母一开始都拥有这赏识教育的宝藏,当孩子幼小的时候,刚开始学走路的时候,走了几步又跌倒,父母是在一旁又是鼓掌又是支持。但孩子渐渐长大时,父母都把这赏识教育的宝藏忘了,开始抱怨孩子,责骂孩子,甚至侮辱孩子,就这样渐渐染上了抱怨教育的毒。

Appreciation education educates children in the way when they start to walk and talk. At first, every parent has the key of appreciation. When children started to learn walking, from one time to another, they keep falling. At the same time parents keep encouraging and praising them. But unfortunately when children grow up, most of the parents lost the key of appreciation. Then, they started to scold them, punish them.... and these will hurt their feelings. After some time, they will be the same as their parents too.

赏识教育是一个允许失败,尊重失败和不怕失败的教育方法。对赏识教育来说,失败是喜悦的,失败是被享受的,失败的时候是微笑的。成功时,就应该被赏识;失败时,就更应该被赏识,被鼓励。抱怨教育呢?拒绝失败,轻视失败。成功时,父母表扬孩子;失败时,父母责骂孩子。我真有点想不通,为什么父母不能让我们失败呢?难道他们不懂“失败是成功之母”的道理吗?真正的成功不是一味成功,而是不怕失败。

Appreciation education enables and respects failure. In appreciation education, failure is happiness, everyone should enjoy failure. When one succeed, parents must appreciate them; when one failed, parents should appreciate them more. Whereas complaining education does not allow children to fail. When they fail, parents punish them. I can't have a proper answer, why parents don't let their children fail? "Failure is the mother of success."

那么赏识教育的父母是怎么教育孩子的呢?孩子的优点把它放大10倍,缺点把它缩小10倍。孩子做好时,父母鼓励他们;孩子做不好时,父母更鼓励他们。孩子犯错时,父母好好地劝导后,还是信任他们是好孩子,永远不会怀疑它们是坏的。赏识教育尊重孩子的品格,不会羞辱他们的。赏识教育“惩罚”孩子的方法就是唤醒好孩子的感觉。听过“治标不治本”这个谚语吗?就是只看外表,不看内心。但赏识教育是“治本不治标”。他们内化孩子,让他们心服口服,要长期才能见到效果。孩子做不好,他们不是以生气不满的心情对待孩子,而是以和气和平常心对待他们,不断地为他们打气加油,并轻声辅导孩子。这样孩子不会感受到被排斥,反而感受到被爱。

How appriecation education educates children in the proper way? Appreciation education maximizes children shining points 10 times bigger, and minimizes weak points 10 times smaller. When children do well, parents encourage them; when children didn't do well, parents encourage them more. When children are wrong, parents explain to them gently and thoroughly. They still believe that their children are the best. Appreciation education respects children's behaviour. Appreciation education solves root problems. Parents do not treat their children badly because they did not do well. They keep encouraging them to do well next time. Only this way will let children know that parents love them a lot.

所以赏识教育不只是一种教育方法,它也是与人的相处之道。它不只适合在师生与亲子之间,它也可以应用在夫妻,兄弟,姐妹,同事,朋友。。。等人与人之间的待人处世之道。

Appreciation education is not only a way to educate people around the globe, its also increases people's harmony and relationship between each other. Appreciation education can not only be used between teachers and students, it is also suitable for couples, brothers and sisters, friends and more.... remember:


Sow a complain, reap a failure。
Sow an appreciation, reap a success.

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