以下有2个老师，都是同学们觉得比较难沟通的老师。这些老师都已经尽了力教导我们，但是我觉得他们还有足够的进步空间。
The 2 teachers below are those who are more difficult to communicate with. These teachers had tried their best to teach us, but I think that they still have lots of improvement space.
1。科学老师/班导师
她的脾气虽然忽冷忽热，一个很严格的老师。但是她也有好的一面。只是她在很多个月里没有把她美好的一面表现出来，但是从9月开始，同学们都开始察觉她变好了，尤其是一些顽皮的同学，他们觉得老师“针对”/“处罚”他们的方法奇怪，都是用笑的方法来哄他们比较高兴。当她使用这样的方法对我们的时候，我发现我们的课室越来越干净了，抱怨老师的情况也似乎没了。希望这位老师到12月都是利用这样的赏识教育的方法来对我们，让我们快乐一点，也让她自己快乐许多。
1. Science teacher/ Form teacher
Although she is strict, but she also has a beautiful side of her face. But we couldn't feel her kindness for 8 months. But from September onwards, my classmates think that she has become much more better than last time, especially some naughty students who felt that her way of "Punishing" is actually more like laughing. Well, it makes them feel better of course. Since she had starting treating us so well, I could see that my class has become cleaner, and the arguing between teachers and students are lesser. I hope this teacher will treat us using Appreciation Education until December, to make us happire in class, and earn some benefits for herself.
2。国语老师
她是一个很好，很认真教课的老师。但因为我们的关系，她有点不耐烦了。我有建议她使用赏识教育，并叫她看这个博客。她觉得有道理，她就去尝试了。可能她不懂得怎么使用，所以我们的行为还是没改变。但是她还是面对着48个吵闹的学生在白板上教书，看得出她的忍耐力非常好，竟然可以在那么吵的环境里不被受干扰。我很佩服，也很遗憾，因为我没有把赏识教育的常识给她，但是她却顺顺利利的做了我们9个月的老师。
2. BM teacher
She is a good and earnest teacher. But because of our attitude, she changed a bit. I suggested her by using Appreciation Education and I asked her to see this blog. She said it was very well-done and tried using it. Maybe her way of appreciation was wrong, so our attitude didn't change at all. But she can still face 48 noisy students at the same time teaching in the front. I can see that her patience is really fantastic, she can teach a whole 80 minutes in such a noisy surrounding. I admire at her patience, but I also feel dissappointed because she can't use Appreciation Education correctly, but she done so well she is our teacher for 9 months.
这些老师虽然遇到了困难，但还是在努力着找出路，希望可以把这一群学生带好。我非常佩服他们。同学们应该把他们的优点放大十倍，缺点放小十倍。可是我们都掉反了。。其实同学们也应该在心里给予鼓励及劝告，而不是批评或抱怨。
Although these teachers had difficulties, but they are still finding their way out, just hoping to teach us well. I admire them very much. We students should maximize their good faces and minimize their bad faces, but we did it the other way. Students should also give them encouragement in the heart to let them improve.
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Monday, March 29, 2010
妈妈变了 Mummy Had Changed~
最近考卷都发完了，虽然大致上我都考得不错。。。但是有三个科目。。。
1。中史
2。科学
3。KHB
考得不大理想。。。70-75之间。。。它们拉低了我的总平均。。但是。。。当我拿到考卷想到妈妈今天回家会如何。。。我有点紧张，也充满着希望。。。我拿了考卷，我看到了70分，虽然我觉得自己考得不是很好。但我就是一直笑个不停。。笑得很高兴得样子。。。因为我觉得我的努力也没有白费。。至少比去年进步了很多，因为我大部分的考卷后面都画了一个大拇指。。这个大拇指给了我很大的信心与快乐。让我在考得不好时，给我勇气，面带笑容，不怕失败的思想就此出现。
惊讶的是，妈妈反而没有骂我。。还一直夸奖我。。说我已经考得很好了，她说她为了我的分数而感到高兴骄傲。。。她温馨说：“以后再努力，我相信我的乖儿子一定能够成为第一名的！”我听了，心里不只觉得舒服，还发现妈妈一直以来对我的爱一直都在加深。。。只是没有用正确的方式表达出来而已。。她今天总于站出来了，因为我也是一直都在相信她，等待着这一天的到来。
当我把这个故事告诉给班上的一些同学时，他们都彻底地感动了，还非常羡慕我有个那么懂得怎么样真正地去爱一个孩子的母亲，因为他们本身的父母亲都中了抱怨教育的毒。他们都说我的妈妈可以这么好去赏识我，鼓励我。哇。。那时听了，我也觉得很自豪，也很同情，因为他们都还没试过被父母这样的赏识。我就鼓励他们抽空来行知文教发展中心做义工，能够更了解赏识教育。。。
~我的妈妈变了~变好了~。。。
Recently I had all of my exam papers collected, although most of them are good results, but they are still three which had pulled down a lot on my overall mark..
1. Chinese History
2. Science
3. KHB
When I just got these papers, my mind was just thinking about my mother... what reaction will she do? When I got these papers, all I did was LAUGH... I just laugh laugh laugh Happily...at least I scored much more better than last year, and at the last page of every subject paper, I drew a "Thumbs Up"... This is the drawing that gave me confidence, gave me happiness and also the positive thinking mind of Failure....
The amazing part is, my mom didn't scold me, but she praised me.. She said that I had already being doing very well this year and she is proud of me... She also added: Keep it up! I believe one day my son will get No.1 in class!" I was so touched after listening to this. My heart relaxes and I felt more comfortable. My mother's love towards me had being increasing for as long as I live... Onl she didn't express it in the right way.. And she changed, because I believed that she will change one day too..
When I told this story to some of my friends, they were truly touched, and they were admiring my mother... They said that I am very lucky to have a mother like that. Because among them, only my mother can true love a child, by appreciation, by encouragement.... SWhereas their own parents are still trapped in Complaining Education.... Wow! I was also touched by my mother, and also I felt pity for them, because they had never being appreciated by their parents for so long. I felt proud and happy for myself and for my mother... I encouraged my friends to come to the XingZhi Development Centre to learn more about Appreciation Education.
~At last, My Mom Changed~ Into a Beautiful one~
Monday, February 8, 2010
我班的赏识老师 Our Class Appreciation Teachers
我今年已经升上初二了，就读初二孝班。幸运的，我的班的一些老师正使用赏识教育的教学方法教导我们。我现在列出来我们的老师给予的赏识教育的方法。
I'm Junior 2 this year, in class Junior 2 Xiao. Fortunately, some of the teachers in my class are teaching us with Appreciation Education. Here I will list out how they appreciate us.
第一位就是我们的班导师~张运媚老师。虽然她很唠叨，说话说个不停。但是她都会在课堂上称赞那些做了好事的同学，也偶尔指出并纠正那些做错的同学。她经常会说一句话：“我们初二孝的同学不是那种不负责任的”。她都是在相信同学的话，无论是真或假。她告诉我们在叫别人做东西之前，我们必须相信他，一定会做好。她也教了班上的同学如何合作，如何从“我愿意”开始做起，如何改进班上的秩序，整洁等方面。她是位好老师，如果她上课时可以更快把要说的说完就是完美了。
Thefirst is our form teacher, Mrs Chang. Although she can be quite nagging and talkative, but she always praises those students who did well, and will correct those who did wrong. She usually will tell the whole class that we are all responsible children. Besides, she always trust the students, no matter it's true or not. She taught us to trust people, how to coorperate, how to maintain better discipline and cleanliness in class...... I think she is a good teacher. I wish that if she could talk lesser and faster, she would be perfect for us.
第二位就是我们的英语老师~ Theresa老师。她在第一天上课时很凶，说我们班很差劲。。。我们都怕了他。但是第二天开始她的人全变了。当我们在三部曲的时候，她就会说：很好。并给我们一个大拇指。我顿时吓了一跳。。“应该是昨天是第一天，所以大概把赏识教育忘了吧？”她上课时叫同学回答问题时，不管同学答对还是答错或者是不会答，老师的后头就是个“好“字“。她也让上课情况有趣了很多，就是让同学们在白板上进行比赛。当有几位同学输了不开心时，老师就是会称赞同学脑袋很聪明，以后再来。偶尔她会分享报纸上的最新新闻，或和我们嘻嘻哈哈的时候，全班轻松了许多。说再见时有些同学就会说：老师我爱你。看见老师的脸亮了很多。。她在我的眼里，是初二孝所有的老师当中，把赏识教育办的最成功，最好玩的老师。。老师，我也爱你。
The 2nd teacher is our English teacher, Teacher Theresa Yao. On the first day of her lesson, she's as fierce as a tiger. We are all afraid of her. But starting from the 2nd day onwards, she became a different person, a friendly and appreciating one. When the class is greeting to her, she will always had her thumb up and praise us. We were shocked. I thought" maybe she had forgotten Appreciation Education yeasterday!"
During her lesson, she will always call upon some students to answer questions. No matter the answer is right or wrong or the student doesn't know to answer, she always says: Good. before she says the correct answer. Besides, she increases the way of the lesson to be interesting by having a competition among the students on the whiteboard. Whenever a student who is not happy because he lost, the teacher will always say out straight that we are all clever children and that he will try again next time. Sometimes she shares updated-news to the students and telling them jokes... The whole class feels relax and starting to like her. Even after saying goodbye one or two of them will shout: Love you, teacher. At the moment I saw sparkling teeth and eyes from her face. She is happy...
To me, I think that she is one of the most successful teacher in Junior 2 Xiao to treat us in Appreciation Education. Teacher,love you too.
你看，赏识教育可以弄到班上秩序好，培养合作精神，让同学开心，老师也开心，同学安心，老师更安心。。 由此可见赏识教育对大家都有很大的贡献和帮助。我希望其他老师也可以像以上的两位老师一样，让同学们在赏识教育的环境下学习。也希望同学能够写一封赏识信给老师们，让老师们重获信心，让赏识教育发芽开花。
As you can see, Appreciation Education can improve a class' discipline and cleanliness, to coorperate with others, make all students and teachers happy when learning. As a matter of fact, Appreciation Education is very important to all of us.I wish that the other teachers will learn how to appreciate students and their families.And I also wish that the students can write some appreciation words for teachers, so that they can regain courageness, and let the Appreciation Flower bloom!
I'm Junior 2 this year, in class Junior 2 Xiao. Fortunately, some of the teachers in my class are teaching us with Appreciation Education. Here I will list out how they appreciate us.
第一位就是我们的班导师~张运媚老师。虽然她很唠叨，说话说个不停。但是她都会在课堂上称赞那些做了好事的同学，也偶尔指出并纠正那些做错的同学。她经常会说一句话：“我们初二孝的同学不是那种不负责任的”。她都是在相信同学的话，无论是真或假。她告诉我们在叫别人做东西之前，我们必须相信他，一定会做好。她也教了班上的同学如何合作，如何从“我愿意”开始做起，如何改进班上的秩序，整洁等方面。她是位好老师，如果她上课时可以更快把要说的说完就是完美了。
Thefirst is our form teacher, Mrs Chang. Although she can be quite nagging and talkative, but she always praises those students who did well, and will correct those who did wrong. She usually will tell the whole class that we are all responsible children. Besides, she always trust the students, no matter it's true or not. She taught us to trust people, how to coorperate, how to maintain better discipline and cleanliness in class...... I think she is a good teacher. I wish that if she could talk lesser and faster, she would be perfect for us.
第二位就是我们的英语老师~ Theresa老师。她在第一天上课时很凶，说我们班很差劲。。。我们都怕了他。但是第二天开始她的人全变了。当我们在三部曲的时候，她就会说：很好。并给我们一个大拇指。我顿时吓了一跳。。“应该是昨天是第一天，所以大概把赏识教育忘了吧？”她上课时叫同学回答问题时，不管同学答对还是答错或者是不会答，老师的后头就是个“好“字“。她也让上课情况有趣了很多，就是让同学们在白板上进行比赛。当有几位同学输了不开心时，老师就是会称赞同学脑袋很聪明，以后再来。偶尔她会分享报纸上的最新新闻，或和我们嘻嘻哈哈的时候，全班轻松了许多。说再见时有些同学就会说：老师我爱你。看见老师的脸亮了很多。。她在我的眼里，是初二孝所有的老师当中，把赏识教育办的最成功，最好玩的老师。。老师，我也爱你。
The 2nd teacher is our English teacher, Teacher Theresa Yao. On the first day of her lesson, she's as fierce as a tiger. We are all afraid of her. But starting from the 2nd day onwards, she became a different person, a friendly and appreciating one. When the class is greeting to her, she will always had her thumb up and praise us. We were shocked. I thought" maybe she had forgotten Appreciation Education yeasterday!"
During her lesson, she will always call upon some students to answer questions. No matter the answer is right or wrong or the student doesn't know to answer, she always says: Good. before she says the correct answer. Besides, she increases the way of the lesson to be interesting by having a competition among the students on the whiteboard. Whenever a student who is not happy because he lost, the teacher will always say out straight that we are all clever children and that he will try again next time. Sometimes she shares updated-news to the students and telling them jokes... The whole class feels relax and starting to like her. Even after saying goodbye one or two of them will shout: Love you, teacher. At the moment I saw sparkling teeth and eyes from her face. She is happy...
To me, I think that she is one of the most successful teacher in Junior 2 Xiao to treat us in Appreciation Education. Teacher,love you too.
你看，赏识教育可以弄到班上秩序好，培养合作精神，让同学开心，老师也开心，同学安心，老师更安心。。 由此可见赏识教育对大家都有很大的贡献和帮助。我希望其他老师也可以像以上的两位老师一样，让同学们在赏识教育的环境下学习。也希望同学能够写一封赏识信给老师们，让老师们重获信心，让赏识教育发芽开花。
As you can see, Appreciation Education can improve a class' discipline and cleanliness, to coorperate with others, make all students and teachers happy when learning. As a matter of fact, Appreciation Education is very important to all of us.I wish that the other teachers will learn how to appreciate students and their families.And I also wish that the students can write some appreciation words for teachers, so that they can regain courageness, and let the Appreciation Flower bloom!
Monday, December 21, 2009
深圳，香港，广州和赏识教育研讨会之~感想
从深圳回到马来西亚，我发现我这次的赏识旅游真的没白费。在这里，我想要写这次的旅游带给我的启示及感想。
第三，我在姑姑身上了解了赏识教育的其中一种方式来鼓励我。那天早上,由于姑姑有点忙，她摆脱我帮她把笔记电脑和硬盘搬到楼下去，一边劝我说：“小心！很重要的！别掉！小心一点！”结果我很小心地走下楼梯，只顾着望着自己的脚有没有踏错，却没注意到整个电脑已歪了一边，硬盘就掉了下来，“砰”的一声。这时我说：惨了惨了！但姑姑就温柔地说：“没关系。掉了没什么大不了的！我应该鼓励你，支持你。这样你就不会把硬盘掉了咯！”这时我也很惊讶，心里也觉得舒服。这就是赏识教育的好处。
第四，在香港举办赏识教育研讨会时，我听了几位老师校长的讲座，我有感到感动，感到开心，感到好奇，感到自豪，也有的感到很闷。。哈哈！感动的就如周弘老师和婷婷的讲座，两个都哭出来了。曾校长的我感到是开心和自豪的，他说得又简单，又有趣。通过那么多的赏识专家的讲座，我对赏识教育也了解了多一大步。
第五，当我发现大姐不小心把姑姑的东西弄成一团糟时，姑姑都是用严格的眼神和抱怨的语气对大姐说话，有点像在骂人哦！我就每次在身边说：“姑姑，你抱怨！”那时候我姑姑说：“那一点也是抱怨吗？”她想过是不是带错人来了。结果她和校长商量了这件事，发现原来：抱怨别人的人更需要被赏识。姑姑这次非常感谢我，让大家又学到了一样新知识。我也知道以后任何人抱怨我时，我应该用赏识的语气回答他，纠正他。
第六，我锻炼了一半的我的胆量和信心。感谢曾校长和姑姑给我鼓励，在国际赏识教育研讨会的舞台上和曾校长对话。我望着几百双赏识教育专家的眼睛，说话时有点紧张，吞吞吐吐的。有时我一时慌张，又停顿了，不晓得要说什么。台下的专家们就是在拍手鼓掌，他们都望着我的嘴，我好像变得很出名似的，因为他们都知道是我做了赏识教育双语博客，我终于说出话来了！
在吃晚饭时，我们都要说出赏识教育研讨会过后的感想。轮到我时，我耳朵热了，我紧张了。但还是可以说出10句话，我对自己第一次就可以说那么多感想的能力，非常惊讶。说完后，桌上的人鼓掌还翘起了许多大拇指。顿时觉得轻飘飘的。。。而且，我在赏识教育研讨会是第一次上台，也是国际舞台，就可以当面在那么多专家面前说话，我真的为自己感到自豪。
第七，我知道了赏识教育学校的教学方法和同学的表现。在深圳一间出名的学校，叫中英公学。有一天，我被派到去七年级B班上几个小时的课。那时我更紧张，但我一到课室里时，有两位男生快快站起来让位给我。我那时目瞪口呆，拉着椅子到后面去坐时，看到那位让位给我得那位学生站着来上课，直到今天我还没感谢他呢！上课时，是一位教科学的40-50岁的老师，他们的内容我完全听不懂但是我发现老师问问题时，全班同学就是很有信心的抢答。老师发现到有一位同学的答案和他的一模一样，却没有怀疑他，还笑着拍了他的肩膀说：“你好厉害！你的答案和我一样呢！你怎么猜得出来的？”
老师忙着时，同学们在吵闹，但老师只说了：“3，2，1”全班顿时静了下来，这里的教师学生的纪律比马来西亚的好多了！下课时，一团同学跑来我的方向想和我交流，和我开一开玩笑，结果呢，认识了8 个男生，3个女生。他们都对我很热情，而且我觉得他们这种爱交朋友的行为吸引了。
12月9日，我们将离开深圳，回到马来西亚。当我们把行李搬出来在外面等巴士的时候，我很快得跑到7B班的楼下，谁知真的猜中了！下课时，整堆学生叫我上去。他们知道我要走了，很不舍得我。拍照时，他们都抢着上镜头，他们好像真的要我永远记得他们。拿了电话号码，拍了照，谈了话，说再见。。。巴士来了，他们上课了，他们还在栏杆那里向我道别。我和他们笑了最后一次，便上了巴士到机场去了。我发觉到那里的教师学生和我班的差别非常大。中英公学的校园充满了欢笑声，学生都很乖，又很外向；老师们都是赏识教师，他们的学生多么地开心啊！
这也就是我来中国最深刻的印象，就是在赏识教育的环境下学习，交朋友，感觉是舒畅又快乐的。
我的感想就写到这里，我会珍惜这次学习的每一样知识，记得这一次的旅程真的给我很大的收获。明年的赏识教育研讨会的地点在深圳举办，希望我又可以回来深圳，认识更多的赏识教育，交更多的朋友，更要上多次的舞台，更要让父母知道我到深圳是满载而归的。
第一，我学会独立。这是我第一次父母不在身旁的旅游。虽然刚开始学习独立时，我也有想父母的时候，但过了几天，我已开始掌握到独立的基本要求。我已学会照顾自己的安全；不舒服时就得赶快吃维他命；自己的财物自己处理；自己收拾行李；言行举止要良好；注意自己的卫生。。。
第二，我学到了感恩。在阿姨家住几晚时，我贪心地要求了许多东西。这时姑姑就说做人要感恩，要感谢阿姨给你那么好的房子住宿。
第三，我在姑姑身上了解了赏识教育的其中一种方式来鼓励我。那天早上,由于姑姑有点忙，她摆脱我帮她把笔记电脑和硬盘搬到楼下去，一边劝我说：“小心！很重要的！别掉！小心一点！”结果我很小心地走下楼梯，只顾着望着自己的脚有没有踏错，却没注意到整个电脑已歪了一边，硬盘就掉了下来，“砰”的一声。这时我说：惨了惨了！但姑姑就温柔地说：“没关系。掉了没什么大不了的！我应该鼓励你，支持你。这样你就不会把硬盘掉了咯！”这时我也很惊讶，心里也觉得舒服。这就是赏识教育的好处。
第四，在香港举办赏识教育研讨会时，我听了几位老师校长的讲座，我有感到感动，感到开心，感到好奇，感到自豪，也有的感到很闷。。哈哈！感动的就如周弘老师和婷婷的讲座，两个都哭出来了。曾校长的我感到是开心和自豪的，他说得又简单，又有趣。通过那么多的赏识专家的讲座，我对赏识教育也了解了多一大步。
第五，当我发现大姐不小心把姑姑的东西弄成一团糟时，姑姑都是用严格的眼神和抱怨的语气对大姐说话，有点像在骂人哦！我就每次在身边说：“姑姑，你抱怨！”那时候我姑姑说：“那一点也是抱怨吗？”她想过是不是带错人来了。结果她和校长商量了这件事，发现原来：抱怨别人的人更需要被赏识。姑姑这次非常感谢我，让大家又学到了一样新知识。我也知道以后任何人抱怨我时，我应该用赏识的语气回答他，纠正他。
第六，我锻炼了一半的我的胆量和信心。感谢曾校长和姑姑给我鼓励，在国际赏识教育研讨会的舞台上和曾校长对话。我望着几百双赏识教育专家的眼睛，说话时有点紧张，吞吞吐吐的。有时我一时慌张，又停顿了，不晓得要说什么。台下的专家们就是在拍手鼓掌，他们都望着我的嘴，我好像变得很出名似的，因为他们都知道是我做了赏识教育双语博客，我终于说出话来了！
在吃晚饭时，我们都要说出赏识教育研讨会过后的感想。轮到我时，我耳朵热了，我紧张了。但还是可以说出10句话，我对自己第一次就可以说那么多感想的能力，非常惊讶。说完后，桌上的人鼓掌还翘起了许多大拇指。顿时觉得轻飘飘的。。。而且，我在赏识教育研讨会是第一次上台，也是国际舞台，就可以当面在那么多专家面前说话，我真的为自己感到自豪。
第七，我知道了赏识教育学校的教学方法和同学的表现。在深圳一间出名的学校，叫中英公学。有一天，我被派到去七年级B班上几个小时的课。那时我更紧张，但我一到课室里时，有两位男生快快站起来让位给我。我那时目瞪口呆，拉着椅子到后面去坐时，看到那位让位给我得那位学生站着来上课，直到今天我还没感谢他呢！上课时，是一位教科学的40-50岁的老师，他们的内容我完全听不懂但是我发现老师问问题时，全班同学就是很有信心的抢答。老师发现到有一位同学的答案和他的一模一样，却没有怀疑他，还笑着拍了他的肩膀说：“你好厉害！你的答案和我一样呢！你怎么猜得出来的？”
老师忙着时，同学们在吵闹，但老师只说了：“3，2，1”全班顿时静了下来，这里的教师学生的纪律比马来西亚的好多了！下课时，一团同学跑来我的方向想和我交流，和我开一开玩笑，结果呢，认识了8 个男生，3个女生。他们都对我很热情，而且我觉得他们这种爱交朋友的行为吸引了。
12月9日，我们将离开深圳，回到马来西亚。当我们把行李搬出来在外面等巴士的时候，我很快得跑到7B班的楼下，谁知真的猜中了！下课时，整堆学生叫我上去。他们知道我要走了，很不舍得我。拍照时，他们都抢着上镜头，他们好像真的要我永远记得他们。拿了电话号码，拍了照，谈了话，说再见。。。巴士来了，他们上课了，他们还在栏杆那里向我道别。我和他们笑了最后一次，便上了巴士到机场去了。我发觉到那里的教师学生和我班的差别非常大。中英公学的校园充满了欢笑声，学生都很乖，又很外向；老师们都是赏识教师，他们的学生多么地开心啊！
这也就是我来中国最深刻的印象，就是在赏识教育的环境下学习，交朋友，感觉是舒畅又快乐的。
我的感想就写到这里，我会珍惜这次学习的每一样知识，记得这一次的旅程真的给我很大的收获。明年的赏识教育研讨会的地点在深圳举办，希望我又可以回来深圳，认识更多的赏识教育，交更多的朋友，更要上多次的舞台，更要让父母知道我到深圳是满载而归的。
Saturday, November 21, 2009
抱怨教育的故事 Examples of Complaining Education
从前，有一个男孩，他生病了，想拿一瓶药来喝。喝完时，他听到电话在响，便跑去接，却忘了把药物放回原位。几分钟后，他看见2岁的弟弟把药都打翻了。爸爸见了，骂了那位男孩一句：“你真的是一个没脑的小孩。没有脑的人，怎么做大事啊？我看你的脑袋是废掉了的！”
抱怨教育就是如此，要他脑袋好，却说他没脑袋。。。我看啊！那位男孩的脑袋真的越来越坏了。
Once upon a time, there lived a boy named Robert. One day he fell ill, so he had to take some medicine. After he finished drinking the medicine, the phone rang. He ran to the hall to pick up the call, but he left the medicine un-capped, leaving it on the table. After he finished talking to the phone, he saw his brother playing with the medicine, poured all over the floor. Robert's father scolded him, he said: " You empty-headed boy, how can you be so forgetful? I think your brain had become rubbish!"
This is one of the examples of Complaining Education. The father wanted Robert's brain to work, but he kept complaining that his brain is already useless.
考试要来临了，小明在房间里自修。突然，妈妈进来了。她开始责骂小明为什么那么容易的科目要读那么久，小明没有回答。妈妈说：“再给你十分钟的时间，你就必须把整篇课文的内容都说出来，答不出一题，就打一次！”十分钟很快就过了，但小明还没完全了解课文的内容。妈妈用手把书本一抢，就开始发问问题了。小明好多道题都答不出，被妈妈又骂又打了许多次。结果妈妈生气起来，把小明最喜爱的漫画书给撕烂了，就丢进垃圾桶里，说：“你就是每天只会看漫画，连书都读不进。我看你啊, 别去学校了啦！你也别做人了啦！气死我了！！”小明在一旁发抖，眼泪开始流了，他是多么喜爱那本漫画书啊！“哭什么啊？你再哭，我就打断你的腿！”小明立刻停止哭泣，但心里是多么的伤心害怕，多么的恨这位妈妈，觉得他自己已经没用了，有一点想自杀的念头。。。
小明读不好书是因为父母都在抱怨他，讽刺他，使到他不能专心，而不是那个漫画书的错啊！抱怨教育的父母就是没查清楚事情的始终，就冤枉了自己的孩子啊！
The exam was approaching, Robert was doing his revision in his room. His mom came in and started to scold Robert for revising a easy subject for such long hours. She said to him: " I'll give you ten more minutes to revise. Then I'm going to ask you questions on this chapter. One question can't answer, I whip you one time." After ten minutes, his mom snatched the book from his hands and started to ask questions. But Robert can only answer 1 question out of 10, his mom scolded and whipped him with a broom. At last his mom couldn't control her anger and teared Robert's favourite book into pieces and threw it into the dustbin. She shouted at Robert: " This book is making you useless! Don't go to school anymore! You are only wasting my time and money! I'm very disappointed with you!" At that time, poor Robert was shaking with fear and started to sob. His mom then added: "Why are you crying? I'll cut your legs if you cry!" Robert stopped crying immediately, and his face was calm. But actually he felt like bursting into tears, how he hated his family, and how he wanted to commit suicide...
The reason that Robert couldn't study well was not about his book, but it's his family who kept complaining him, blamed him, scolded him... Complaining education is when parents don't even step one foot ahead to see what had really happened, but their children was being blamed.
成绩不好：打，骂，罚。。。
犯错：骂，讽刺。。。
品行不好：骂，罚，你真没用！。。。。。
成绩不代表全世界啊！成绩不好也是一定会发生的。打骂孩子有用吗？成绩反而没有上进，反而越骂越差！鼓励他们，赏识他们，这样他们才会对自己有信心，成绩才会越赞越好啊！
天下有谁没犯过错呢？犯错后父母骂他们：笨啊！没脑啊！蠢猪啊！，我看啊，原本是好孩子真的会被父母骂到坏孩子了!但如果父母说他们：好啊！你犯错了！没关系，以后不能重犯咯！，孩子心里会有一点惭愧，才会去找出路口，改正错误啊！
所以为什么要学习赏识教育呢？就是能还给孩子一片宽阔草地，让孩子在爱的环境下，能快乐地长大，向日葵开花了！父母们，您们要孩子快乐吗？
抱怨教育就是如此，要他脑袋好，却说他没脑袋。。。我看啊！那位男孩的脑袋真的越来越坏了。
Once upon a time, there lived a boy named Robert. One day he fell ill, so he had to take some medicine. After he finished drinking the medicine, the phone rang. He ran to the hall to pick up the call, but he left the medicine un-capped, leaving it on the table. After he finished talking to the phone, he saw his brother playing with the medicine, poured all over the floor. Robert's father scolded him, he said: " You empty-headed boy, how can you be so forgetful? I think your brain had become rubbish!"
This is one of the examples of Complaining Education. The father wanted Robert's brain to work, but he kept complaining that his brain is already useless.
考试要来临了，小明在房间里自修。突然，妈妈进来了。她开始责骂小明为什么那么容易的科目要读那么久，小明没有回答。妈妈说：“再给你十分钟的时间，你就必须把整篇课文的内容都说出来，答不出一题，就打一次！”十分钟很快就过了，但小明还没完全了解课文的内容。妈妈用手把书本一抢，就开始发问问题了。小明好多道题都答不出，被妈妈又骂又打了许多次。结果妈妈生气起来，把小明最喜爱的漫画书给撕烂了，就丢进垃圾桶里，说：“你就是每天只会看漫画，连书都读不进。我看你啊, 别去学校了啦！你也别做人了啦！气死我了！！”小明在一旁发抖，眼泪开始流了，他是多么喜爱那本漫画书啊！“哭什么啊？你再哭，我就打断你的腿！”小明立刻停止哭泣，但心里是多么的伤心害怕，多么的恨这位妈妈，觉得他自己已经没用了，有一点想自杀的念头。。。
小明读不好书是因为父母都在抱怨他，讽刺他，使到他不能专心，而不是那个漫画书的错啊！抱怨教育的父母就是没查清楚事情的始终，就冤枉了自己的孩子啊！
The exam was approaching, Robert was doing his revision in his room. His mom came in and started to scold Robert for revising a easy subject for such long hours. She said to him: " I'll give you ten more minutes to revise. Then I'm going to ask you questions on this chapter. One question can't answer, I whip you one time." After ten minutes, his mom snatched the book from his hands and started to ask questions. But Robert can only answer 1 question out of 10, his mom scolded and whipped him with a broom. At last his mom couldn't control her anger and teared Robert's favourite book into pieces and threw it into the dustbin. She shouted at Robert: " This book is making you useless! Don't go to school anymore! You are only wasting my time and money! I'm very disappointed with you!" At that time, poor Robert was shaking with fear and started to sob. His mom then added: "Why are you crying? I'll cut your legs if you cry!" Robert stopped crying immediately, and his face was calm. But actually he felt like bursting into tears, how he hated his family, and how he wanted to commit suicide...
The reason that Robert couldn't study well was not about his book, but it's his family who kept complaining him, blamed him, scolded him... Complaining education is when parents don't even step one foot ahead to see what had really happened, but their children was being blamed.
成绩不好：打，骂，罚。。。
犯错：骂，讽刺。。。
品行不好：骂，罚，你真没用！。。。。。
成绩不代表全世界啊！成绩不好也是一定会发生的。打骂孩子有用吗？成绩反而没有上进，反而越骂越差！鼓励他们，赏识他们，这样他们才会对自己有信心，成绩才会越赞越好啊！
天下有谁没犯过错呢？犯错后父母骂他们：笨啊！没脑啊！蠢猪啊！，我看啊，原本是好孩子真的会被父母骂到坏孩子了!但如果父母说他们：好啊！你犯错了！没关系，以后不能重犯咯！，孩子心里会有一点惭愧，才会去找出路口，改正错误啊！
所以为什么要学习赏识教育呢？就是能还给孩子一片宽阔草地，让孩子在爱的环境下，能快乐地长大，向日葵开花了！父母们，您们要孩子快乐吗？
快把抱怨教育忘掉吧！就使用孩子幼小时在学走路，学说话的赏识教育去重新教导他们吧！
Poor results: Scolded, Punished, Beaten
Mistakes: Scolded, Punished
Bad behaviour: Scolded, Worst child!....
Results doesn't mean the world to us. Poor results will surely happen to us every time. Scolding and punishing children with poor results, can only made their results even poorer. The more parents scold, the worse their results will be. But how about it when parents encourage them, console them? Only these can give children energy and confidence to themselves, they will try their best and have better and better results next time!
Who hasn't made a mistake on Earth before? Why parents always say: " Stupid child! Empty-headed child! Useless! The worst child in the world!"? Those good children will change to bad ones if parents continue to do this to them. But if parents choose to appreciate them, children will realise their mistakes and will try to turn over a new leaf.
Why all of us should learn Appreciation Education? Then children will grow up happily in a world of love, and soon the Sunflower Will Bloom! So parents, do you want your children to live happily and grow up happily?
Throw away the Complaining Education and start educating your children using the way that parents once used when children were young and learning how to talk and walk. That is called APPRECIATION EDUCATION
Thursday, November 12, 2009
给老师们的话 Teaching Teachers To Appreciate
我班的老师教导我们11个月了，非常谢谢您的教导。我觉得您们对待学生的方式还有进步的空间。也希望全世界各国的老师都能赏识学生！
Thank you for our class teachers who had been teaching us for 11 months this year. But I think some of you should learn how to appreciate yoursleves and your families. And of course, students too. This post is mainly for teachers, but it also helps in parents.
首先我先列出来当学生做错时老师们处理的方式：
1。罚站
2。抄写文章
3。狠骂
4。甚至打学生
对不起可能我说得太过火了，但我一定要告诉您们，如果您们想要学生成绩顶呱呱，或是品行良好，打骂是没用的。我也了解当学生顽皮时您们火冒充天的心情，但在赏识教育的眼里，学生永远是乖的。
First let me list out the ways teachers treat/punish their students when they make mistakes:
1. Stand outside the classroom
2. Copy sentences 20 times+
3. Scold
4. Being beaten seriously
Sorry, maybe I said it too rough. But I must tell all teachers that: If you want your students to get good marks, or you want them to have a good attitude, SCOLDING & BEATING is NO USE. I know what teachers feel when their students are naughty. But in Appreciation Education, students are always gentle and soft.
当您们打骂或处罚学生时，就等于在伤害他们的心灵。学生更不会尊重您们，甚至在后面玩弄您们。学生会继续恨您们，排斥您们。这样您们和学生的关系就会相当减少。到了这种地步时，您们觉得他们会做一个好学生吗？一定不会。
Punishing students as if you are breaking their hearts. Will they respect you? Will they like you?Will they be a good student in your eyes? Will they set up a good relationship with you? I don't think so....
所以赏识学生的方法有：
1。 成绩方面
2。 品行方面
3。 其他
Appreciating students from the following ways:
1. In Studies
2. In Attitude
3. Others
一， 成绩方面
老师们想一想，学生考得十分优异时，您们又是称赞又是奖赏；那么那些考得不理想的呢？又是骂又是讽刺又是惩罚！为什么这种学生得不到赏识呢？所以老师们，当学生考不好时，走向前，拍一拍他的肩膀，摸一摸他的头，说：“小民啊！为什么心情不好？是不是考试的问题？没关系，反正你已经尽力了啊！今年考不好，明年再来，我相信你总有一天你的成绩一定会进步的！我问你，失败时是哭的还是笑的啊？”说了那么关怀的话，连我都会感动地流眼泪，心里也想着：老师说我行的，我一定行！学生眼睛一亮，信心和毅力也跟着表现出来了。
All teachers will have surely met students who are very weak in their behaviour. Whenever a student plays pranks in class or does anything bad, teachers should not directly scold them. This will only make them even naughtier. A teacher should console and advise him in a gentle way, not hurting his feelings. First a teacher should ask him(gently):" Why you are so unhappy today? Can you tell me what happened? I can help you." The student will then know that the teacher is caring about him, and he will tell the teacher what happened. Then the teacher should talk or explain to him and help him to overcome the problem. If the student does the same thing but much better next time, teachers should praise him in front of the class. The more the teacher praises and appreciates him, the better the student will be.
Thank you for our class teachers who had been teaching us for 11 months this year. But I think some of you should learn how to appreciate yoursleves and your families. And of course, students too. This post is mainly for teachers, but it also helps in parents.
首先我先列出来当学生做错时老师们处理的方式：
1。罚站
2。抄写文章
3。狠骂
4。甚至打学生
对不起可能我说得太过火了，但我一定要告诉您们，如果您们想要学生成绩顶呱呱，或是品行良好，打骂是没用的。我也了解当学生顽皮时您们火冒充天的心情，但在赏识教育的眼里，学生永远是乖的。
First let me list out the ways teachers treat/punish their students when they make mistakes:
1. Stand outside the classroom
2. Copy sentences 20 times+
3. Scold
4. Being beaten seriously
Sorry, maybe I said it too rough. But I must tell all teachers that: If you want your students to get good marks, or you want them to have a good attitude, SCOLDING & BEATING is NO USE. I know what teachers feel when their students are naughty. But in Appreciation Education, students are always gentle and soft.
当您们打骂或处罚学生时，就等于在伤害他们的心灵。学生更不会尊重您们，甚至在后面玩弄您们。学生会继续恨您们，排斥您们。这样您们和学生的关系就会相当减少。到了这种地步时，您们觉得他们会做一个好学生吗？一定不会。
Punishing students as if you are breaking their hearts. Will they respect you? Will they like you?Will they be a good student in your eyes? Will they set up a good relationship with you? I don't think so....
所以赏识学生的方法有：
1。 成绩方面
2。 品行方面
3。 其他
Appreciating students from the following ways:
1. In Studies
2. In Attitude
3. Others
一， 成绩方面
老师们想一想，学生考得十分优异时，您们又是称赞又是奖赏；那么那些考得不理想的呢？又是骂又是讽刺又是惩罚！为什么这种学生得不到赏识呢？所以老师们，当学生考不好时，走向前，拍一拍他的肩膀，摸一摸他的头，说：“小民啊！为什么心情不好？是不是考试的问题？没关系，反正你已经尽力了啊！今年考不好，明年再来，我相信你总有一天你的成绩一定会进步的！我问你，失败时是哭的还是笑的啊？”说了那么关怀的话，连我都会感动地流眼泪，心里也想着：老师说我行的，我一定行！学生眼睛一亮，信心和毅力也跟着表现出来了。
多 说 关 怀 的 话, 少 说 伤 人 的 话
1. In Studies
What will you teachers do when students scored high in exams. Good Good Good all the way home, some even bought sweets and chocolates for those students... But... how about those who got poor marks? Scold larh... I am always very curious, why those students cannot be appreciated? Teachers, whenever some students did not score well, just walk towards them, pat them on the shoulder, and say gently:"Never mind, you've tried all your best right? Let's start again next year, ok? I believe you can score well next time. Let me ask you, Failure we--- Cry or Smile?" If that student was me, I would be so touched that I will cry. Teacher says I can do it, so I really can do it!! When a student's eyes start to shine, courageness is tagging along behind him...
二， 品 行 方 面
我也知道您们遇过操行十分恶劣的学生。那么这些学生怎么样被赏识呢？首先，当一位学生在发脾气或在课室捣乱时，第一老师都不能对他大声责骂，这样只会使到他更顽皮。老师应该改正他的错误，用温柔及关怀的语气给予劝告及慰问，而不是在落井下石。第一句就是问他：“为什么今天心情不好啊？发生了什么事可以和老师说吗？说不定老师可以帮你哦！”他听了这一句，自动会知道老师在关心她，就会把事情说出来。老师们就要用同样的语气和他解释，安慰他。下次如果他在重犯，就对全班同学说他进步了许多，叫班上同学给他一个掌声。经过老师们的赏识及辅导，他以后就会像变了另一人似的。
2. In Attitude
All teachers will have surely met students who are very weak in their behaviour. Whenever a student plays pranks in class or does anything bad, teachers should not directly scold them. This will only make them even naughtier. A teacher should console and advise him in a gentle way, not hurting his feelings. First a teacher should ask him(gently):" Why you are so unhappy today? Can you tell me what happened? I can help you." The student will then know that the teacher is caring about him, and he will tell the teacher what happened. Then the teacher should talk or explain to him and help him to overcome the problem. If the student does the same thing but much better next time, teachers should praise him in front of the class. The more the teacher praises and appreciates him, the better the student will be.
三，其他
其他方面就包括了课外活动，分工合作等。老师们都要给予学生赏识，鼓励，及关怀。这样，学生快乐，老师们也快乐，整个学校都充满欢笑声了。可见老师对学生来说是多么重要的呢！
3. Others
This includes Corruriculum, Helping and lots.... Teachers are so important to students because they have to give students happiness, then everyone in the school will also be happy. Appreciate Students, Teachers! :-)
Monday, November 9, 2009
伤感 A Depressed Mood
几天前，在吃晚饭时，想到爸爸为家人煮了几年的饭，就想趁机会感谢他。
过了一会儿，爸爸从客厅走到饭厅。正当我要对他说:" 谢谢”时，谁料到，他突然骂出几句:“ 你吃那么多干嘛？我还没吃呢？你看 ,你看，鸡肉就留那么少！你不觉得很过分吗?” 我那时的嘴顿 时闭起来了，心里觉得好象没必要感谢他，没那个心情说出来了。。。
A few days ago, while I was eating dinner. I thought of saying "Thanks" to Dad for cooking delicious meals for us so many years. So I waited for the opportunity to come.
It did came, when Dad was walking to the kitchen and passing by the dining room. I had not even said the letter "T" as he pointed out and started to complain: " Why are you eating so much? I haven't have my dinner yet! You count yourself how many chicken wings you had ate! Don't you think that you're too selfish?" After I heard this sentence, my mouth couldn't talk! In my heart, I don't think it's worth to thank him... Besides, I don't have the mood to thank him...
有时当我要对父母做些事的时候，他们就会骂我，讽刺我。。。让我没心情去动手。很伤感，很悲哀，想关心他们但又关心不到的那种感觉。。。有时也等于想赏识他们但又赏识不到的遗憾的那种心情。
Sometimes when I want to help my parents, they will always scold or ask me to go away... I don't have the mood and courage to help them because of their bahaviour. I felt very disappointed, very depressed, it's just like the feeling that you want to care for them but you don't dare to... Which is equal to the feeling that you want to appreciate them but you don't dare to...
但是我还是一直在用正面的角度去看待父母哦！
But I always think of my parents positively....
过了一会儿，爸爸从客厅走到饭厅。正当我要对他说:" 谢谢”时，谁料到，他突然骂出几句:“ 你吃那么多干嘛？我还没吃呢？你看 ,你看，鸡肉就留那么少！你不觉得很过分吗?” 我那时的嘴顿 时闭起来了，心里觉得好象没必要感谢他，没那个心情说出来了。。。
A few days ago, while I was eating dinner. I thought of saying "Thanks" to Dad for cooking delicious meals for us so many years. So I waited for the opportunity to come.
It did came, when Dad was walking to the kitchen and passing by the dining room. I had not even said the letter "T" as he pointed out and started to complain: " Why are you eating so much? I haven't have my dinner yet! You count yourself how many chicken wings you had ate! Don't you think that you're too selfish?" After I heard this sentence, my mouth couldn't talk! In my heart, I don't think it's worth to thank him... Besides, I don't have the mood to thank him...
有时当我要对父母做些事的时候，他们就会骂我，讽刺我。。。让我没心情去动手。很伤感，很悲哀，想关心他们但又关心不到的那种感觉。。。有时也等于想赏识他们但又赏识不到的遗憾的那种心情。
Sometimes when I want to help my parents, they will always scold or ask me to go away... I don't have the mood and courage to help them because of their bahaviour. I felt very disappointed, very depressed, it's just like the feeling that you want to care for them but you don't dare to... Which is equal to the feeling that you want to appreciate them but you don't dare to...
但是我还是一直在用正面的角度去看待父母哦！
But I always think of my parents positively....
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